It’s a a rather blustery morning as February 2021 rolls into existence. Mercury is also rolling – backwards. So that gives us all pause; by “all” I mean us sensitive types (raises hand, points finger at self). Let’s get on with it.
“Can I give you a little bit of feedback?”
“Feedback” sends my spine into a straight up then shimmy movement. As a solo-practice coach and communicator, I don’t have weekly 1:1s withy my employees or supervisor. Honestly, it’s one of the reasons I stuck out on my own. I found 1:1s and opportunity to stretch for feedback. By that I mean stretch to the bottom of the barrel just to have conversation and exert authority. I never cared for that part of having a job. Probably because of both insecurities and the deep belief that I’m smart.
So, when I got an email stating a recent client submitted feedback, I naturally ignored it for a few hours until my curiosity got the better of me. To my relief my client left glowing feedback (see below). The first thought was about creating Canva quotes and sharing on social media. Then I started to wonder, what is my hesitation toward feedback? Is it insecurity or over confidence realized? Is it because I am the following:
- Enneagram Type 3
- Middle Child
- Only Girl
- Have “Words of Affirmation” as my Love Language
- 47 and unsure what I want to be when I grow up
It’s so easy to get wrapped up in all those facets, isn’t it? But each one reveals a slice of our whole personality. Yes, I hate getting feedback. But I love hearing positive comments. For years I’ve had a “Nice Things People Say” folder. When it started I would print out emails, then I’d do screen shots. Now I share them on social media so that I can look back in a year and think, “Oh, that’s so kind.”
While I enjoy the positive affirmations, what really matters – what the works really is – is standing in your deep truth. I know I’m a good coach. I know I’m a good writer. I know I’m wandering in the darkness right now. But the words above, they help me find the light.
And after all – when it’s all said and done, when the world is silent, when we’re alone in the dark forest, aren’t we all just looking for a little bit of light?